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Thanks for writing so honestly about this Tanya. It’s so counterintuitive but I also avoid doing breast checks, because I’m too scared of what I’ll find. It makes no logical sense! I think it must be a common thing. Loads of people avoid the doctors for similar reasons. Journaling about it sounds like a good idea, I hope it helps.

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Thanks for commenting Hannah. We sound like a right pair! I was advised to do the self examination when in the shower or bath as the body is more relaxed and warm. Let’s cheer each other on and promise we shall check our boobs regularly x

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I signed up to get reminder texts from the charity coppa feel but tbh i just ignore them 🫣

Thanks for the shower / bath tip!

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My pleasure. Now I need to take my own advice 😂

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I ignore them too most of the time 🤦🏻‍♀️

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I kept feeling like I had it a few months back... I was still feeding Luna and my hormones were all over the place and I would sometimes convince myself I had it (my mum and grandma both did) and work through what I’d do, what we’d all do with me being the bread winner - the sense of responsibility I feel to never get sick is overwhelming and very lonely in the darkness. Thanks for writing this piece! ✨

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Oh gosh that is a lot of pressure to cope with, no wonder you felt overwhelmed. I think we need to talk more openly about the behind the scenes of cancer more. So glad we are able to have these types of discussions here on Substack x

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I have Deborah James book I must read it! But the tbr pile is so high x

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Snap!! Maybe we should read the same book in the same month and cheer each other on, after all we are in the same book club with the ever so fabulous Sam Baker 🙌📚

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Definitely! X

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