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It’s massively challenging. I reason myself by thinking that in most cases good outcome is as likely as a negative one and there’s no reason to focus on the 50% risk rather than the 50% luck. Training the brain is healthy too so I see it as an opportunity to learn. Life is made so much more challenging by drama of what might get not happen. It’s not our fault we’re built for expecting difficulties that’s how we survived as a species. And it ain’t gonna be erased in a few thousand years…

All will be well. X

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Thanks you Jacqueline. Wise and comforting words as always. I hope all is well with you x

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Oh man, Tanya, I can relate! In 2022 myself and my husband endured a horrific 9 week wait for potentially life altering health-related news. I got through it with a combination of journaling, like yourself, exercise, daily gratitude lists, and having something, however small, to look forward to each day. I kept myself very busy. What struck me is that there was no lesson to be learned in that wait. I'm in the middle of waits for two more non-health reasons at the moment, and I haven't become any more patient! I find I just have to take a deep breath and do the above rituals, taking things one day at a time. I hope you receive a good news result and some relief soon, and in the meantime, time among books, in nature or with a fur-friend always makes me feel calmer.

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Thanks you so much for commenting Anna, your words are very soothing. I didn’t realise how many other women felt the same. Always so nice that our stories and experiences can resonate. My early morning dog walk with the hounds is my favourite hour of the day. Good luck with your wait 🤞

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Hi Tanya. I am just like you. But I think we should not be so patient in many ways. I would have asked the receptionist why the samples were out of date. If it was due to their inaction to test them, that is not acceptable. I think we are far too patient as patients who are not given the service we pay dearly for (NI contributions throughout our lives). I know it's not the same everywhere, but it is common practice to have to wait 3 weeks or more for a GP appointment. We would either be fully cured by then. Or dead. I hope your results come back soon and with good news. I will keep my fingers crossed for you. Best wishes, Rosy.

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Thanks for your kind and caring words Rosy. I’m far too polite in these situations but I do have a line, and when it’s crossed, watch out 😂 Fingers and toes crossed this will be the last sample required 🤞

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You look after yourself. Don’t ever think natural emotions mean you are not being adult. You are actually being human & totally normal 😘😘😘

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