Tanya, at 31 I may not quite be at midlife yet, but many of the feelings you mentioned resonated. Sense of loss because my experiences in the healthcare system have taken a toll on my mental health. Overwhelm. Lack of recognition for me pops up when I feel like I'm being dismissed by healthcare professionals. Thank you for writing so openly about women's rage!
Since writing this, more women in their 30’s have been in contact. It’s a real privilege to be trusted by more and more women, especially those who come forward to share their rage stories. I hope you find a solution for channeling your rage.
Oh yes, I can resonate, I have had many different rage outbursts over the years, which mostly ends up with me in tears. However, I have found after the tears have shed, I feel a lot better afterwards. I find journalling beneficial and also cleaning, clearing out and organising helps me. My son used to have a punch bag in his room which I would use when needed, this was beneficial for both of us especially when his dad died (nearly six years ago now 😳). I’m on HRT and I am a bit better at handling my emotions, probably more aware of the bubbling up before I explode, as I don’t have a full diary anymore. I realised that if I have too much on then someone (particularly my boyfriend) would ask me to do something or go somewhere and I would blow. He has had high expectations of me in the past which I have slowly managed to quash over the years. Being open and honest with him has really helped, I just can’t keep up with his social life, and I don’t WANT to! I say ‘no’ a lot to other people now too which was difficult at first, but now I am getting used to doing what suits me, resulting in a calmer, happier me 😂 (sometimes).
Thanks for sharing your story Laura. I agree with you, we need to embrace the therapeutic power of crying much more. In the past I've struggled, but now I can cry over the slightest thing and not suppress it. And YES to being open and honest about feelings, especially with our loved ones, is the way forward, even though it can be very difficult to do at times. It's so liberating saying 'NO' isn't it. Hope you're enjoying a peaceful Sunday :)
Tanya, at 31 I may not quite be at midlife yet, but many of the feelings you mentioned resonated. Sense of loss because my experiences in the healthcare system have taken a toll on my mental health. Overwhelm. Lack of recognition for me pops up when I feel like I'm being dismissed by healthcare professionals. Thank you for writing so openly about women's rage!
Since writing this, more women in their 30’s have been in contact. It’s a real privilege to be trusted by more and more women, especially those who come forward to share their rage stories. I hope you find a solution for channeling your rage.
Oh yes, I can resonate, I have had many different rage outbursts over the years, which mostly ends up with me in tears. However, I have found after the tears have shed, I feel a lot better afterwards. I find journalling beneficial and also cleaning, clearing out and organising helps me. My son used to have a punch bag in his room which I would use when needed, this was beneficial for both of us especially when his dad died (nearly six years ago now 😳). I’m on HRT and I am a bit better at handling my emotions, probably more aware of the bubbling up before I explode, as I don’t have a full diary anymore. I realised that if I have too much on then someone (particularly my boyfriend) would ask me to do something or go somewhere and I would blow. He has had high expectations of me in the past which I have slowly managed to quash over the years. Being open and honest with him has really helped, I just can’t keep up with his social life, and I don’t WANT to! I say ‘no’ a lot to other people now too which was difficult at first, but now I am getting used to doing what suits me, resulting in a calmer, happier me 😂 (sometimes).
Thanks for sharing your story Laura. I agree with you, we need to embrace the therapeutic power of crying much more. In the past I've struggled, but now I can cry over the slightest thing and not suppress it. And YES to being open and honest about feelings, especially with our loved ones, is the way forward, even though it can be very difficult to do at times. It's so liberating saying 'NO' isn't it. Hope you're enjoying a peaceful Sunday :)