Rays of togetherness
12 Days of Reflection | Day 7 | July 2023
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In the warmth of July 2023, a precious moment unfurled - a long awaited family holiday that involved long days in the sunshine, sat by the turquoise ocean. It had seemed like an eternity since we had all been abroad together. Actually four years. 2019 was when we enjoyed our last escapade together, so the longing for warmer climates, the salty embrace of the surf and quality time with my boys had become an ache in my heart.
As we embarked on this seven day adventure and boy was it an adventure - a chance to revel in the simple joy of being relaxed and child like, even amidst the occasional brotherly bickering. Which reminds me how much of an old romantic I am, thinking we would spend a week in paradise all getting along just fine. But the varied interpretations of what a holiday truly means, is definitely something I never anticipated.
Just to paint the scene… One would be up at the crack of dawn, picnic, beach towels and swim gear packed, another would be hiding under the thin sheets hoping to have a lazy lie in until lunchtime, another wishing it was pool time and was not interested in sand filled baguettes; whilst all I wanted was a peaceful corner of the beach to relax and read my book. Too much to ask?! I guess that’s what you get when you go on holiday with three very strong minded males. Next time we decide to book a family holiday, I may have to arrange a ‘holiday expectations meeting’ that’s if there will be a next time.
Even with the bickering and difference of opinions, my heart was full of pride for my sons. I’d watch them chat over dinner, wondering which dish to order, teasing each other about the fact it was the 5th evening for pizza and garlic bread. My eldest, now a man on his second gap year, carving his path as a ski instructor, while my youngest, at a mere 13, harbours dreams of leaving school for entrepreneurship. I do smile, but I do also sympathise with his desire to leave the boredom of the classroom in search of his more exciting destiny.
Both my boys are confident, independent and fun loving souls, and my memories of our family Summer holiday will always be a constant beam of light, because maybe just maybe that was to be our last holiday together as a family of four. That thought also makes this Christmas a little harder to enjoy, as both boys will be away from home. I’ll certainly raise a glass to my cheeky chaps, for their bright smiles, their gentleman like ways and their positive attitude to life. It’s tough being a divorced parent, but I know I did good and that’s the best feeling ever!
As always, I’ll leave you with a few therapeutic journaling prompts, today focusing on how precious family holidays can be, even though you sometimes need a holiday to recover when you return.
1. Recall the most cherished memory from your last family holiday. What made it special and why does it hold significance for you?
2. Consider the phrase “precious times” in the context of your family holidays, whether summer or Christmas holidays. What makes the time spent together with your family so valuable, even when it’s challenging?
3. Consider what you would do differently or prioritise in future family holidays. Are there adjustments you can make to enhance the overall experience for everyone?
I hope these prompts help, they aim to encourage reflection, gratitude and self-awareness. Exploring the multifaceted nature of family holidays and the potential for growth even amid the need for post holiday recuperation.
Until the next time
Take care and stay safe xx