50 Things NOT To Do At 50
A quirky guide to embracing freedom
Dear Friend
How are you feeling today? Relaxed? Invigorated? Frustrated? Throw me a word, and I’ll create a few therapeutic journaling prompts for you. Just because I’d like to.
It’s less than a week to go to my 50th, and apologies, I know I keep going on about it, but I want to record these last few days of my 40’s, more as a keepsake and a reminder of where I was at.
I’ve been reflecting on what this milestone means.
While many might feel compelled to create a “50 Things To Do” list, the idea of yet another list of tasks, goals, or achievements makes me squirm. I’ve spent a lifetime striving, achieving, failing, and checking off boxes. At 50, I want to shift my focus - ideally let go of the pressure and embrace a new kind of freedom.
So instead of a list of things TO DO, I’m making a list of “50 Things NOT to do at 50”. This is my quirky, lighthearted guide to stepping into a new decade with ease, joy and a sense of liberation. It’s a reminder that it’s ok to say NO, to set boundaries, to prioritise ME and my wellbeing, over any societal expectations.
50 Things NOT To Do at 50
Maybe you have a few more you’d like to add, so please let me know if you have any ideas you’d like to share, as I’m fascinated my what you’d love to NOT do at 50…
1. Don’t try to please everyone. It’s impossible and it’s not your job.
2. Don’t apologise for putting yourself first. Remember selfcare is essential.
3. Don’t feel guilty about saying NO. Your time and energy are just as valuable.
4. Don’t dwell on past mistakes. Learn from them and move on.
5. Don’t compare yourself to others. I know this will be hard to do, but don’t forget you’re your own unique journey.
6. Don’t strive for perfection. Embrace the beauty of being scrappy.
7. Don't overcommit your time. Prioritise what truly matters. Use your Trello board!
8. Don’t ignore your health. Listen to your body and take care of it. Book that appointment for a health MOT.
9. Don’t let fear hold you back. Courage is taking a step forward even when you’re afraid.
10. Don’t put off the things that bring you joy. Find reasons to laugh or at least smile everyday.
11. Don't clutter your life with stuff you don’t need. Remember you love a declutter!
12. Don’t neglect your passions. Make more time for the things you love.
13. Don’t tolerate toxic relationships. Surround yourself with radiators and remove the drains.
14. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. There is strength is seeking support.
15. Don’t take life too seriously. Be more playful and silly.
16. Don’t feel pressured to meet every milestone. Blimey you’ve made it to 50! It’s your life. Your timeline!
17. Don’t overthink everything. Trust your gut!
18. Don’t ignore your inner muse. Tell your inner critic to simmer down.
19. Don’t keep old grudges. Just let it go.
20. Don’t be afraid to change. You actually enjoy being a new version of you.
21. Don’t assume you have to do it all. Try delegating once in a while. Delegate, Delete or dump it!
22. Don’t settle for less than you deserve. Know your worth.
23. Don’t forget to celebrate the small wins. They all matter.
24. Don’t worry about what others think. Their opinions are not your reality.
25. Don’t resist rest. Have some guilt free time off.
26. Don’t postpone your dreams. Now is the time to pursue what really lights you up.
27. Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable. It’s not a weakness.
28. Don’t neglect your friendships. True friends matter now more than ever.
29. Don’t feel obligated to explain yourself. Back yourself. Your choices are yours to make.
30. Don’t take your health for granted. Especially your eyes. Treat yourself to some nice new specs.
31. Don’t stay stuck in your comfort zone.
32. Don’t let others dictate your happiness.
33. Don’t feel like you have to justify your decisions. Stand by them confidently.
34. Don’t rush through life. Slow down!
35. Don’t hold on to unrealistic expectations.
36. Don’t be afraid to try new things. Especially if they’re outside of your comfort zone.
37. Don’t wait around for those who keep you waiting.
38. Don’t take your loved ones for granted. They really do love you to the moon and back.
39. Don’t ignore your creative side. Express yourself even if you don’t feel like it.
40. Don’t feel pressured to follow trends. You’ll never keep up.
41. Don’t worry about ageing. Wrinkles suit you, especially your laughter lines!
42. Don’t be afraid to speak your truth. Your voice matters.
43. Don’t neglect your spiritual wellbeing. Whatever that looks like for you.
44. Don’t stay silent when something bothers you. Express yourself.
45. Don’t take life too seriously.
46. Don’t forget to live in the present.
47. Don’t worry about creased clothes.
48. Don’t hold onto regrets. Use them as stepping stones for growth.
49. Don’t pick up everyone else’s pants.
50. Don’t worry about a thing. Because every little thing is gonna be alright.
Did I miss anything out? What would you add to it?
Note To Self: Turning 50 doesn’t have to be about ticking off another set of goals or striving for more achievements. Live, love and laugh more!
Until the next time
Take care and stay safe xx
Love this list Tanya! Would you say more about number 37?
Here’s three that spring to mind, in case they’re helpful:
> Don’t hold back on expressing love.
> Don’t forget your sensuality.
> Don’t act or dress your age.
Love everything about this .... especially the little Trello mention 😉